Networking can be stressful, especially when you want to leave a conversation without causing offense. Jean Evans outlines the dos and don’ts of a graceful exit
We’ve all been there, stuck in a conversation at a networking event and not sure how to extract ourselves politely and leave feeling guilt-free.
This is a skill that takes courage and, when done correctly, one that can demonstrate control, respect, and leadership, creating a positive first impression and leaving you with your reputation intact.
No one wants to be ditched at a professional engagement by someone who looks like they’re eager to get away, just as no one wants to make another person feel unwanted or uncomfortable.
So, plan ahead before you head out the door to network with your colleagues, other professionals or business contacts—and think about how each interaction might take shape.
How long should a conversation last?
How long a conversation should last really depends on your networking goals, whether you’re an introvert or an extrovert, and if you already know people at the event.
However, the recommendation is five to ten minutes per conversation, before moving on.
When to break out of the conversation
To leave a conversation, you should wait until you can sense there is about to be a lull and then get in there with the opportunity to close off before the lull hits.
Why? Because when the lull occurs, the conversation becomes awkward. If you catch it before the lull happens, then you’ll have the chance to leave the person on a positive note and with a first positive impression of you.
Here are a few ideas for how you might approach finishing a conversation at a networking event.
1. Request a business card
The act of getting and receiving a business card often signals that a conversation is coming to a natural close. You can finish off with:
“It was great to speak with you, and thanks for your business card. I’ll connect with you on LinkedIn. I hope to see you at another one of these events soon.”
2. Organise a follow up
If a 10-minute conversation isn’t long enough, then get out your calendar and schedule the follow-up right there. This shows that you are serious and committed to the conversation. You might say:
“I’d love to get your business card to continue our conversation. Can we arrange a call next week? When might suit, and we can get something in the diary now?”
3. Make an introduction
Ask your conversation partner who they’d like to meet and see if you can make a beneficial introduction for them. You’re adding value and allowing both parties to move on gracefully. You can say:
“I’d love to introduce you to [name] – I think they would be a great connection for you.”
4.Top up your drink
Tell the person with whom you are speaking that you’re going to get a drink or some food. Offer them something and tell them it was great to meet them before moving on. Leave them feeling good.
5. Do them a favour
Make your exit sound like you are doing something to benefit the person you’re talking to and less about them thinking you are trying to get away.
You can say: “I don’t want to take up all your time – I know we’re all here to network. It was great chatting with you and getting to know you a bit better.”
While there is no doubt that closing conversations at networking events can be daunting, anyone can master this essential skill with enough practice.
Jean Evans is a Networking Architect and Founder at NetworkMe