Contrary to the misconceptions of awkward social encounters, networking is a fundamental and invaluable skill that everyone should cultivate, says Jean Evans Businesses, organisations and most people deem networking to be a soft skill, but it’s not. It’s a power skill. People think that networking is an awkward social moment or an icky sales conversation. They mistakenly think that networking is about schmoozing and being sleazy. That it’s about going to the odd event, handing out business cards and expecting something to happen. However, networking is one of the most fundamental, valuable and necessary skills you’ll ever develop. It makes you powerful. The foundation of success Networking is like the foundations you put down for a house. You cannot build a house without solid foundations. Similarly, you cannot build a successful business or stellar career without networking because no one is successful by themselves or achieves success without the support and help of others. Networking to win Networking enables you to become more self-aware and develop emotional intelligence, which will assist you in using your voice while helping you understand your personal brand and what you bring to the table in your organisation. You’ll grow a community and tribe of people who’ll support you and your career and who will be your sponsors and advocates while allowing you to become a problem solver and trouble shooter within your professional career. A personal journey How we connect with others is deeply intimate, so learning to network is highly personal and nuanced. There isn’t a right way or a wrong way for you to do it, but you have to learn how you want to do it. We all have different backgrounds that influence how we connect with others, whether it’s the environment in which we grew up, our education, our friends and family or our work. Confidence You might have noticed that I haven’t mentioned anything about more business or promotions. They are also wins when it comes to networking, but none of the tactical and technical stuff comes before you develop your confidence and self-awareness. Confidence is the name of the game. Understanding yourself and what you stand for allows you to make intelligent and conscious decisions about what aligns with your values, your priorities, and this allows you to make good choices and set appropriate boundaries. Jean Evans is a Networking Architect and founder at NetworkMe

We all experience anxiety at times, after all, it is a normal and natural response to stressful and dangerous situations. It is our body’s way of keeping us safe and has been critical to our survival as a species. It can focus our attention, helps us react, and even improve our performance in certain situations. Anxiety is described as uncomfortable feelings of nervousness, worry, uneasiness and tension. A healthy amount of anxiety is perfectly ok and expected but what happens when it builds up and becomes difficult to manage? Signs of Anxiety Anxiety is a common state, it is estimated that one in nine people will experience anxiety in their lifetime. Anxiety affects people in different ways, but it has physical, emotional, and behavioural effects and signs. Signs of anxiety include: Being on edge, restless or irritable, feeling a sense of dread Difficulty concentrating or making decisions Repeatedly checking things or seeking assurance from others Avoiding situations or putting off doing things Change in eating habits – increased or decreased appetite, craving junk food Dizziness or trembling Sweating Racing heart Shortness of breath Physical aches or pain – headaches, stomach problems and nausea, diarrhoea, muscle tension or pain, jaw clenching Sleep problems – disturbed sleep, tiredness, nightmare, teeth-grinding Pins and needles A dry mouth Types of Anxiety There are several kinds of anxiety that can affect individuals and have varying symptoms and triggers. Here are the most common types of anxiety: Generalised Anxiety Disorder is the most common type of anxiety where sufferers feel constantly and excessively anxious about a wide range of situations and issues. Social Anxiety is characterized by an intense feeling of anxiety and self-consciousness in everyday social situations. Severe forms can cause a person to experience symptoms almost anytime they are around other people. Panic Disorder is an anxiety which causes regular panic attacks with no particular triggers. It is bouts of intense fear that are often accompanied by physical symptoms such as chest pain, racing hear, shortness of breath, or dizziness. Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) is repeated unwelcome thoughts and/or a compulsion to carry out repetitive behaviours that can be difficult to ignore. Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) is an anxiety that is triggered by very stressful, frightening or distressing events. PTSD sufferers often relive these traumatic events through nightmares and flashbacks, and may experience feelings of isolation, irritability and guilt. Tips to help with anxiety The causes and kinds of anxiety are complex. Anxiety requires treatment such as psychotherapy in the form of talking therapy, cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) and/or exposure and response prevention (ERP) or in the short-term, anti-anxiety medication. However, there are many things you can do to help you learn how to manage feelings of anxiety. Keep a mood diary- Check in with yourself on daily basis and take note of how you are feeling at different times, rating how anxious you are feeling on a scale of 1-10. List what you are feeling anxious about and if there are things you can do to ease those feelings. Make time- If you are feeling particularly anxious, set aside some ‘worry time’ to go through your worries. When that time is up, consciously focus your thoughts on other things. Challenge unhelpful thoughts- Our thought patterns can exacerbate our feelings of anxiety and lead to negative and unhelpful thoughts. Challenge these thoughts and do not accept them as fact. Ask yourself: Is there evidence that confirms your thoughts Is there another way to look at it If you were to think positively about the situation, how would you view it Talk about your feelings - Telling someone about how you are feeling can help make things clearer for you. Relaxation techniques – Breathing and mindfulness exercise help keep you in the present moment and help your mind and body take control of a situation. Lifestyle factors- Eating healthy, regular exercise and getting plenty of sleep can improve your mental and physical wellbeing and burn off anxious energy. If anxiety is affecting you or someone you love, the Thrive Wellbeing Hub is here to offer advice, information and support on anxiety and for those who need it, we can arrange professional counselling. You can contact the Thrive wellbeing team by email at: thrive@charteredaccountants.ie or by phone: (+353) 86 0243294.

When someone asks you “How’s everything going?” is your default instinctive answer “Yeah… busy!” but then you might quickly realise that’s not the perfect answer so you qualify it better by saying “Oh but it’s good busy!”. Is this you? It’s true we’re busy these days as we have an infinite amount of choices to help us occupy our time. There’s no shortage of things to do, people to see or work to be done. But is there a cost to constantly having all our time filled up, even if it is “good busy”? Well it shouldn’t be any surprise to you when I say that there is. Being busy requires the constant activation of our fight-flight (stress) system, even when it is poised at low levels as we expend daily physical, mental, cognitive and emotional energy. Think of sitting stationary in your car with the engine steadily running all day, ready to kick into gear and drive off at a moments notice. But, leaving your engine running for too long can create some issues. Not only does it consume fuel and empty the tank, it also drains the battery, especially if you’ve also got the radio turned up, heat blowing and the lights on. Another serious problem is that the engine can overheat.  I hope you get my metaphor. Even while we sit still at our desks we are consuming fuel (what we’ve eaten) and gaining fatigue (draining our battery), but by being switched-on all the time we’re also stimulating a barely detectable level of low-grade inflammation throughout the entire body. Unlike a high stress event that flames like a bonfire for a few days or weeks, the chronic build-up of this low-grade inflammation from being constantly busy (i.e. work, home, family, friends, community) acts like lava in a volcano, bubbling its way slowly to the surface over several months and years and is now what is strongly linked to being a major cause of many of the serious non-infectious diseases associated with ageing. So how do we prevent the volcanic eruption that could be ahead of us when we get older? Apart from eating well, being more active (sitting less & moving more), spending more time in nature, sleeping routinely and lovingly attending to our most important relationships, we perhaps need to pay more attention to our diaries and our bodies to gain a better balance between stress & recovery (context: recovery during your wakeful hours). By doing this, you may learn how to detect stress better and become even more balanced & resilient! One of the best ways to do this is through silence & stillness. The key thing is that the practice is intentional and you (want to) commit time towards it. You can also learn how to body scan where you “check in” with yourself by noticing your breathing, heart rate and muscle tension. You could also listen to your gut instincts. Or you could follow a guided meditation or mindfulness practice through popular apps such as Headspace or Calm.  Ok, so this week’s challenge is all about deliberately slowing down. Aim to have 2 minutes of silence & stillness twice (x2) a day for the next 7 days. Schedule the time into your diary. If you can, see if you can extend that 2 minutes and maybe try 5 minutes instead, or give yourself a challenge and try a full 10 minutes. Thoughts will come and go and that’s absolutely normal and fine. Just let them, but take notice and be curious. Pay special attention to your feelings and the senses you discover throughout your body. Consider your busy schedule and what needs to be reduced. Enjoy switching the engine off for a few moments twice a day and enjoy the anti-inflammatory benefits of the “rest-digest” system, helping to keep that lava at bay. Article written by Health and Performance coach Dr. Jonny Bloomfield.  Jonny joined Thrive and the Young Professionals at a recent webinar on work/life balance, check out the How to Create a Better Work/Life Balance webinar on YouTube.  Jonny is a Health & Performance Coach specialising in stress, sleep, exercise & nutrition. He has a PhD in Sport Science and worked as the Sports Scientist for England Rugby, as a Physical Performance Consultant in the English Premier League and on Tour with Darren Clarke. Jonny is a qualified Executive Coach and provides Keynotes and Coaching for Organisations to help improve health, wellbeing and performance.

Each year in January we have Blue Monday.  Often referred to as the most depressing day of the year, researchers have cited the third Monday of January as a day when we are at our lowest, but it doesn’t have to be this way.  Blue Monday was awarded the gloomy title due to a combination of reasons. Christmas and New Year joy has evaporated, resolutions and motivation begin to crack and wane, finances can be stretched and we find ourselves in the thick of winter.  However, it is important not to allow the concept to become a self-fulfilling prophecy. The day can present an opportunity to check in with yourself, practise some self-care and a chance to look after your physical and mental health. Perhaps it is time to retrain our brain and change our outlook on the month itself- maybe January could be a time for gentleness, reflection and self-compassion rather than abstinence and self-criticism. January is a bleak month but a positive spin on the gloomy dark days of winter is to think of the days getting a little brighter with each one that passes and is another step closer to Spring and Summer. There is something reassuring about the subtle change in nature in anticipation of better weather that can lift our spirits and encourage us to look to the future. Or why not carve out some time for yourself this blue Monday and make plans to brighten up the day.  Enjoy a sunrise morning walk Have a slow, gentle morning or breakfast Spend quality time with family/kids  Explore, and appreciate, your local area and surrounds Get out in nature Plan an adventure or complete a task you have been avoiding Embrace online learning Tackle that big DIY project and much-avoided clear-out Develop a new gardening skills Learn to cook or bake something new Catch up with friends Activity/Health Now is a good time as we start new beginnings to think about your health. Being active and having a healthy heart has never been more important. A regular walk will make a big difference and there is plenty of workouts or classes online, no matter what your fitness level. Carve out time for you!  Self-care Managing our stress and anxiety levels is essential and many people use meditation or yoga. But everyone is different, and some find painting or gardening works. Explore some options and find what works for you.  Appreciation The New Year gives us time to reflect and consider our surroundings, our family, friends, and appreciate all that is good in our lives. It also gives us the opportunity to consider changing things which perhaps were not so good for us.   

The theme of Alcohol Awareness Week 2022 is change, something that most people find challenging, but change is ever present. We can all easily slip into patterns and routines, and drinking more than we should or using alcohol as a coping mechanism is one. However high levels of alcohol consumed regularly can undermine our physical and mental health. One of the biggest challenge is to force a change in our mindset and seek alternative tools.  If you are finding you are inclined to drink more heavily and frequently, then perhaps it is an opportunity to explore alternative coping strategies. Being mindful and observing a low-risk relationship with alcohol can make a big difference to your anxiety levels and mood. Below are some tips to get you started: Stick to the weekly low-risk alcohol guidelines If you can stick to these guidelines it will reduce alcohol related problems The recommended weekly low-risk alcohol guidelines are less than: 11 standard drinks for women 17 standard drinks for men Drinks should be spread out over the week –no more than 2 standard a day for men, or 1 standard a day for women. Have 2-3 alcohol-free days per week. For more on these guidelines and what is a standard drink check out the HSE site. The Ask About Alcohol  drinks calculator also provides fact-based non-judgmental information about how drinking affects health, wallet and weight. Be aware of your mental health & wellbeing An awareness of how you are feeling can help you identify behaviours and any self-destructing tendencies. Do you use alcohol to ward off or cope with a bad day, stress or low mood?  If so, it is important to look for alternative ways to deal with our mental health and wellbeing.  Connecting with others is essential as it gives us purpose and a sense of belonging. Get out and about, walking and being outside is so good for our mental health. Keep a routine that works Most of us not only like routine, but we need it, so find a routine that works for you and reap the benefits. Keeping structure to your day and evenings will really help you to stay focused. Find alcohol free alternative tools Explore new options and find something you enjoy and works for you. Reaching for that drink each evening can become a bad habit and one which could be hard to break. Reconnect with hobbies or interests you once had or learn a new skill and try some relaxation or mindfulness. Take a news break Turn off the endless newsfeed for a few hours. Anxiety, depression, and alcohol are linked, so give yourself a break and take sometime out from social media and all news feed. You will be amazed how quickly your mood can change once these distractions are removed.

Executive Coach, Facilitator and Founder of xPotential, Ewan Dunbar shares his experience of dealing with cancer and how his journey changed the trajectory of his life, career and mindset. 5,000 Steps!! That was my goal … if I could achieve that then I was sure that my system would kick back in, my wounds would start to heal properly, I would be able to cope without morphine and I would recover fully mentally.  24 hours earlier I had undergone significant surgery to remove stage three cancer and fit a temporary stoma bag for a year.  I had cried for the first time in over a decade when I looked down at my stoma wound, exhausted from the pain and a sleep deprived night in the “Zombie ward” (as I ‘affectionately’ named it). The Zombie Ward was intensive care where patients were typically on morphine and definitely not in control of their senses during the night (I only have admiration for the nursing staff).  I decided to take control of the situation… I declined any more ‘purple tablets’ (the morphine), forced myself out of bed and started putting one foot in front of the other to get walking.  I achieved the 5,000 steps within a couple of days much to the amusement (and possible annoyance) of the nursing staff as I marched up and down blocking the hospital corridor.  I achieved 10,000 steps after day five (not to be recommended) and was released from hospital in half the time I was originally told I had to stay for.  I had set a goal. I had a purpose. I had prepared through significant physical training in advance of my operation and apart from the ‘wobbly 24 hours’ mentioned above, I was determined to live up to the expectations that my friends, family and colleagues expected of me.  Throughout the year of my cancer treatment, the importance of having a really strong network was emphasised to me.  Everyone viewed me as being really positive but I was only positive because of them (they were the fuel to my fire in trying to cope with the challenges presented to me). How did I get there though? As everyone is all too aware, there are carcinogens throughout the world in which we live.  There is not any way to know definitively the cause of my disease however for me it was not coincidental that I was experiencing the most stressful period of my working career.  Whilst smiling on the outside and still being that positive person that everyone expected at work, I was going through so many challenges that I was not sleeping properly.  Despite a rigorous exercise regime, I was constantly exhausted from a lack of sleep and worrying about work issues.  It also does not surprise me that all the cancer sufferers that I befriended who are in their forties also developed cancer whilst going through a particularly stressful period in their lives. This is anecdotal and unfortunately people can just be extremely unfortunate, but this journey has led me to a large number of realisations which also prompted a career change.  I now coach and provide leadership talks to support business executives in navigating the challenges of business life. One of my regular questions to senior executives is “if you woke at 2am, what would you be thinking of” … unfortunately this transpires to be the reality for almost all of my clients, who are able to tell me exactly what they were thinking about.   In this ‘always on’ world, leaders need to check themselves (both physically and mentally) before they wreck themselves.  So please, if in doubt, get it checked out! (early detection is key to saving lives, possibly even yours!)  If you are struggling with business challenges then please reach out to someone for support. Written by Ewan Dunbar on behalf of Thrive. Ewan is an Executive Coach, Facilitator and Founder of xPotential. Ewan spoke at Thrive's Movember webinar, Movember Lessons: Surviving the Corporate World & Beyond, that focused on men’s health and their journey through the corporate environment. You can watch this webinar on-demand here.