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Typically, the festive season is a joyous occasion and a time for celebration, but it can equally be an extremely busy and demanding time that often puts extra pressure on us whether socially, financially or emotionally.  For some, it is a time where they acutely feel the loss of loved ones and feelings of loneliness. The festive period can affect your mental health in many ways and can bring up feelings of being overwhelmed, anxious, stressed and again this year, uncertainty of the pandemic. Our Thrive wellbeing team has compiled a list of tips to help you look after your mental health this Christmas. Realistic expectations It is easy to get carried away with the expectations of a perfect Christmas and everything that goes with it. However, this can cause disappointment and impact our self-esteem if it doesn’t turn out how we hoped. Be realistic about what you can expect from the festive season and avoid unhealthy comparisons with others. Create your own Christmas agenda for how you want to spend your time, focusing on a couple of things that are most important to you. Take a break The Christmas period can be the one time of year where we can really take a break from the demands of day-to-day life. It is essential for our mental wellbeing to have some time-out to help prevent stress and feelings of being overwhelmed. Take this time to rest and restore your energy especially if you are feeling particularly drained. Make sure you set time aside to be by yourself if you need it and engage in activities that help you relax and unwind. Christmas is a time of compassion and giving, so why not indulge in some self-compassion and treat yourself. Reflect With the year coming to an end, you can quickly fall into the trap of thinking about everything you didn’t achieve, those forgotten resolutions and goals. Try not to be too hard on yourself as you begin to reflect on the year that has passed. Accept the year for what it was and reflect and acknowledge the (big and small) things you have achieved and where you are now. The past 12 months has been a challenging period for us all, just navigating the difficulties of living through a pandemic should most definitely be celebrated. Say no Leading up to and during Christmas you can find yourself inundated with social engagements, invites, and being surrounded by people. If you are feeling uncomfortable or unsettled with the incoming invitations, the key is to give yourself permission to say no. You may want to limit your social interactions this year, and while it is important to maintain some social connection it is imperative that you set clear boundaries with family and friends on how much interaction you want to have. Balance your sense of social obligation against your need for self-care. Maybe a winter walk with a close friend or a zoom call with extended family might suffice. Healthy habits The temptation to overindulge is ever present at Christmas - the few extra tipples, lounging on the couch watching Christmas movies or over-doing it on the mince pies and rich food. Overindulging can cause your motivation levels to diminish and make you feel sluggish and not ‘yourself’. Alcohol may make you feel relaxed at first, but it is a depressant which can cause low mood and irritability. Strive to maintain some balance across the festive period if you can. Maintaining a relatively healthy diet and getting some exercise will give your mental health a much-needed boost. Get outdoors, wonder at the Christmas lights and decorations in your area or head out on a nature walk, it will do you a world of good. It can be quite difficult to maintain your usual routine over the holidays too. The best way to retain some semblance of routine and structure is keeping up a healthy sleep pattern. Sleep is an essential component to not only positive mental health but also our physical health. Talk to someone The expectations of the festive season can take its toll and the pressure to have a good time can be overwhelming. How we feel can become all-consuming. If you are struggling it is important to talk to someone about how you are feeling. Your family and friends are your best support system, reach out to someone you feel comfortable disclosing your feelings to. If Christmas is a hard time for you, it's important to remember that you are not alone. Help is here if you need it. The Institute’s wellbeing hub, Thrive, provides an array of mental health supports to members and students. Whether you need a listening ear, wellbeing advice or professional counselling, we are here for you. You can contact the team by email at: thrive@charteredaccountants.ie or by phone: (+353) 86 0243294 Merry Christmas!

There is one thing that defines your quality of life but also how fulfilled you are in life. This one thing is, for every individual, either an asset or a liability. Whether we are aware of it or not, it defines who and what you become. I am talking about mindset. What is mindset and how does one look at it and identify how to make it stronger, better, healthier? Something we don’t realise is that mindset is responsible for a lot of our challenges in life. But it can also be our place of strength, motivation, and happiness. If you are for example: Feeling stuck in life Lacking motivation Feeling you’re not enough Fighting with imposter syndrome Anxious and afraid Lacking confidence All of these issues and so many more are as a result of our mindset. Mindset is everything. But what exactly is it? Mindset is made up of what you believe to be true about you, the people in your life, and the world. It is based on our beliefs and values. Our perception and understanding of all we go through and all that we are. So yes, mindset is pretty important. After a nervous breakdown I discovered that everything hinges on our mindset. How we see the world and how the world sees us. How we get stuck in life not knowing that our mindset needs rebooting. For a lot of people their mindset is not serving them well at all, maybe it’s even broken or irrational in how they see things. For example, self-sabotaging is such an issue of mindset. So too is how we act in our interpersonal relationships. There are two types of mindsets, a growth mindset and a fixed mindset. Whether you are male or female doesn’t matter to mindset. But whether you have a fixed or growth mindset does matter to everything. A Growth Mindset: A thinking that says challenges are not bad, learning is good, and a self-belief that they will be successful. They like feedback, they love to grow and learn. They are not limited in their thinking. A Fixed Mindset: A thinking that believes their skills and talents are a fixed trait and they settle for what comes their way as they feel success is achieved by being safe and secure, and not taking chances. You’re either successful or not but don’t take risks. At Thrive’s webinar, I’ll be sharing my story of a broken mindset but also what real motivation looks like, and the five pillars you can use to build yourself a personal and professional life that makes you smile. Pillars that have helped me and others get through dark times, but also reach their true potential. If you want a different result, you must change the process, and I’ll be teaching all about how to achieve this and reach your full potential in life. As a life coach I work with individuals and groups on a weekly basis helping them adjust or even reset their mindset. This is key to unlocking your full potential to be happy and successful in life. Please join us on November 23rd at 3.00pm for what promises to be an insightful and inspiring hour for all on the power of mindset. Book your free place here. If you are interested in hearing more, you can connect with Mark on Instagram @markfennell.ie or on his website www.markfennell.ie.  Mark is a personal and career development life coach for over 15 years. He works in the areas of mindset and self-belief, and how this impacts our mental health, confidence, interpersonal relations, and most areas of our lives. Mark’s approach is practical and motivational, and he speaks at workshops and seminars as well as working with groups and individuals. As host of This Adult Life podcast, which looks at the good, bad and the ugly of adult life, Mark discusses solutions and practical mindset tips.

Half of workplace illnesses are tied to mental health issues, emphasising the need for better wellbeing supports in organisations. Here are two work-friendly mindfulness methods from Louisa Meehan that can be utilised if you are stressed and anxious. An ongoing and persistent high level of stress is detrimental. It can impact on us emotionally, mentally, and physically. Work-related stress, anxiety and depression accounts for 50% of work-related illnesses according to the ESRI, so it makes sense for organisations to put supports in place to reduce stress at work – especially as the island opens up, people return to the office, and COVID-19 cases rise. Meditation and breath work is proven to benefit our brains. It reduces stress and introduces a level of calm. Employees can do a simple piece of breath work in just a couple of minutes, so it can be easily incorporated into anyone’s daily habits. Mindfulness methods There are many ways one can practice mindfulness, but two good methods for the office are the box breath and the body scan. Both can be achieved while sitting in an office chair with two feet on the ground. Box breath Box breathing is a simple technique that can be practiced almost anywhere. It is regularly used by individuals in high-stress jobs when they face a fight or flight response, and is excellent for re-centring yourself and improving focus and concentration. Close your eyes. Breathe in through your nose while counting to four slowly. Feel the air enter your lungs and pay attention to it energising you. Hold your breath inside while counting slowly to four. Try not to clamp your mouth or nose shut. Simply avoid inhaling or exhaling for four seconds. Begin to slowly exhale for four seconds. Hold your breath out for a count of four seconds. Repeat steps one to four at least three times. Ideally, repeat the three steps for four minutes, or until calm returns. Body scan There are different ways to do a body scan, but the aim is to draw your attention away from your thoughts and into your body. We know that the more connected we are with our own bodies, the better able we are to address issues as they arise. Here is my suggested method. Begin by bringing your attention into your body. You can close your eyes if that’s comfortable for you. You can notice your body seated wherever you’re seated, feeling the weight of your body on the chair. Take a few deep breaths. As you take in a deep breath, bring in more oxygen, enlivening the body. And as you exhale, pay attention to the sense of relaxation. Take notice your feet on the floor, and the sensations of your feet touching the floor; the weight, pressure, vibration and heat. Notice your legs against the chair – the pressure, pulsing, heaviness or lightness. Notice your back against the chair. Is there any tension or tightness? Bring your attention into your stomach area. Is your stomach tense or tight? If so, let it soften. Take a breath. Notice your hands. Are your hands tense or tight? If so, allow them to soften. Concentrate on each finger, one at a time. Relax the muscles as you go. Notice your arms. Feel any sensation in your arms. Let your shoulders be soft. Notice your neck and throat. Let them be soft. Relax. Soften your jaw. If your tongue is touching the roof of your mouth, let it fall away. Let your face and facial muscles be soft. Finally, note your whole body present. Recognise how it is all interconnected. Take one more deep breath. When you’re ready, open your eyes. These are just two simple options that are fast and easy for anyone at home or in the office to help with stress and anxiety. If you are in need of assistance in the area of mental health, emotional and wellbeing supports are available at the Thrive wellbeing hub on https://www.charteredaccountants.ie/thrive-wellbeing-hub/thrive-wellbeing-home Louisa Meehan is the Founder of Woodview HRM.