We all experience periods in life that contribute to increased stress levels and anxiousness. Be it exams, a work deadline looming, moments of uncertainty, crisis, or big life events.  However, it is how we cope through life’s ups and downs that is important. Maintaining good wellbeing is a crucial aspect of living that can help us endure and cope with periods of stress instead of floundering or struggling to cope effectively. And breathe… In moments of stress or anxiety our breathing patterns change.  You might notice your breath is shallow, out of sync or you might find yourself holding in your breath at times. This creates a vicious cycle as out of control breathing is caused by stress but also causes stress, prolonging the symptoms and making them worse.  Whereas deep, controlled breathing has the opposite effect. A slow and steady inhalation and exhalation signals the parasympathetic nervous system to calm the body down. As our breathing is an automatic, unconscious, habitual function of the body, we might not even notice how we are breathing. Therefore, it is important to tune into your breath.  There are countless breathing techniques which helps relax the body and mind, but the general aim is to shift from quick, shallow upper torso breathing to a slow, deep abdominal breath.  Take a minute to focus on your breathing and its pattern. Then place your hand on your stomach and strive to feel the abdomen expand and contract as you breathe in and out. Pay attention to how you feel after engaging in this breathing technique, you are sure to feel calmer.  Food for thought  We all know the tendency to comfort eat when feeling stressed or emotional and it can be tempting to seek out sugary, high calorie, high fat foods for instant gratification or out of sheer convenience. This response however only works in the very short term and again can aggravate our stress levels.  Stress and anxiousness can create digestive and gut issues. Simple things like drinking more water to stay hydrated, reducing your caffeine intake and eating three balanced meals each day can help. Stress can leave your energy reserves depleted and low on essential vitamins and minerals.  Consume plenty of wholesome food that is rich in good nutrients.  Foods high in Vitamin C are understood to reduce anxiety levels while green leafy vegetables and nuts are high in magnesium which can regulate our stress hormones.  Rest and digest  For our brain to function optimally it needs rest and this responsibility falls to the parasympathetic nervous system, also known as the rest and digest system. The parasympathetic nervous system slows our stress response by releasing hormones that relax the mind and body and is where digestion, detoxifying and healing occur.  To activate the rest and digest system, there is no other option but to relax. For some that is mediation, practising yoga or indulging in some self-care.  Self-care has become a popular notion in recent years, but it is not all bubble baths and face masks. Forms of self-care can be spending time in nature, exercising, reading, journaling, colouring, tidying your surrounds or spending time with loved ones. Simply put, self-care practises are tools to help ease our response to stress and enhance our body and mind’s ability to rest, reflect and replenish.  It is important to also take regular breaks throughout the day, a brief pause in momentum allows the brain space to think and process information and brings clarity that helps you feel in control and ultimately reduce stress.  Get some ZZZs The power of sleep to regulate our stress levels should not be underestimated. Stress and anxiety can lead to sleeping problems and a lack of sleep can affect your general wellbeing – again another vicious cycle we can find ourselves in.  When we are not getting enough sleep, it is more difficult to regulate our mood, emotions, and reactions, can affect our concentration, memory and even lead to poor decision making. It’s not always possible to get as much sleep as we would like, generally we should be aiming for at least 5 hours of sleep a night but ideally, we should aim for 7-8 hours. To feel well rested, it is important we develop habits and routines that aid our ability to drift off.  Create a healthy sleep routine by going to bed and getting up at the same time every day, avoid lie ins and naps that can then disrupt our natural sleep cycle.  Start your own personal wind down by creating a night-time routine that you then begin to associate with sleep. It can be as simple as brushing your teeth and washing your face, developing a night-time skincare routine, reading a book or stretching.    This is one of the harder habits to develop but try to limit your use of technology an hour before bed. Our devices keep us awake and stimulate the brain through the activity itself but also from the blue light emitted from the screen. Most phones these days have a blue light filter and can be scheduled to switch on at a certain time.  Thrive is the Institute’s dedicated wellbeing hub which provides emotional and practical support to our members, students and their family members for life. Should you find yourself in a difficult situation, the team at Thrive can help steer you through life’s ups and downs. Talk to us today on mobile: (353) 86 024 3294 or email us.

Burnout is no longer just an HR issue—it’s a leadership imperative. Here Niamh Manning, Marketing Executive for the Thrive Wellbeing Hub, explores how proactive, empathetic management can break the burnout cycle and build resilient, high-performing teams. Burnout has become one of the most pressing issues in the modern workplace, particularly for professional service industries where long hours, high-performance expectations, deadlines and client demands are quite typical. A work culture that prides itself on values of resilience, dedication and hard work can make burnout difficult to spot. While many organisations have HR policies and programs to combat burnout, it is managers who are often the cultural lynchpins and can be an impactful line of defence to break the cycle. It’s their ability to recognise and respond that can determine whether a team thrives or fractures. Managing burnout isn’t just a people issue – it’s a business-critical issue. A burned-out team are more prone to errors, more disengaged, and have low morale, resulting in an increased staff turnover and decreased client satisfaction. The manager toolkit: prevention through proactive leadership Understanding burnout Burnout doesn’t always look dramatic, and many suffer in silence, afraid to speak up fearing it could impact their career growth or be seen as a weakness. It often hides behind professionalism and a strong work ethic, but there are tell-tale signs. Burnout is a state of emotional, physical, and mental exhaustion caused by prolonged or excessive stress, often linked to work but also present in other areas of life. Burnout generally manifests itself in three key dimensions: emotional exhaustion, cynicism and lack of personal accomplishment. This can present in many ways such as reduced attention to detail, irritability or frustration, withdrawing from team collaboration, decline in responsiveness or reliability, or even overworking. As managers get a sense of employees from their daily interactions, they are uniquely positioned to detect behaviour changes and early signs of burnout and make meaningful interventions and changes, but only if they are equipped and empowered to do so. Modelling healthy work habits Leaders set the tone for what is acceptable and expected in the workplace, particularly for younger employees. Modelling healthy boundaries and habits such as logging off at the end of the normal working day, taking breaks and switching off when on annual leave allows employees the space to do the same. However, it is also important to be realistic that some busy periods with high workload volumes are often unavoidable; equally, it is important to know that burnout rarely arises from a busy period – it stems from sustained, unmanaged stress with little or no room for recovery. Psychological safety An integral aspect of high-performing teams and the foundation for creating a culture of wellbeing and productivity, psychological safety in a group involves individuals feeling safe to speak up and share their views and ideas without the fear of negative consequences. Managers can foster this sense of safety by intentionally creating an environment where team members feel safe raising concerns. This can be done in easy and practical ways such as encouraging open dialogue, creating space for feedback, actively listening and modelling vulnerability and empathy. Regular ones-on-one meeting is the perfect way to talk about project updates but also to check in on workloads, stress levels and the employee as a person. Reduce ambiguity, encourage growth Ambiguity and stagnation breeds anxiety. Those with undefined expectations and/or little autonomy in their roles are more susceptible to the effects of burnout. Managers must ensure that employees understand their responsibilities and how they contribute to the wider goals – clear expectations reduce cognitive load and allow employees to focus and prioritise their energies. Managers should encourage autonomy and growth by involving team members in decision-making, providing opportunities for skill development and encouraging ownership of project and duties. When people feel like they’re growing and contributing to something meaningful, they can become more resilient. Recognition and appreciation Reinforcing a sense of value and accomplishment in individuals and teams can help prevent burnout. Managers should regularly acknowledge team members’ efforts and accomplishments. Feeling seen and appreciated can go a long way in encouraging and providing meaning and purpose to team members. Managing burnout when it happens Despite best efforts, however, burnout does occur. When it does, the focus should shift to recovery and retention by allowing employees affected to step back without pressure and temporarily lighten their workload to allow for recovery. Burnout is a leadership issue Managers should not be expected to be therapists, but they are expected to lead and they can be influential agents of change. Despite this pivotal role, many managers are usually not trained to recognise or address burnout. Employers have a responsibility to invest in leadership development that includes emotional intelligence, mental health literacy, and coaching skills. Managers are the conduits of an organisation’s culture. When they are empowered to lead with empathy, clarity, and care, they can transform the workplace from a source of stress into a source of strength. A manager who prevents burnout is not only protecting their team’s health but also preserving the organisation’s long-term resilience and success. If you are experiencing burnout or looking to support someone with burnout, Thrive is the Institute’s dedicated wellbeing hub that can provide advice and support. For additional advice and manager resources, check out CAW’s Wellbeing Toolkit for managers in the accountancy profession.

"I look back on her teenage years as being the loveliest stage of her childhood" said no parent, ever. Living with teenagers can be stressful, exhausting, sometimes fulfilling and certainly unpredictable. Here’s some thoughts on how to help your child transition to a happy and healthy young adult, whilst keeping your own professional and personal life on track. Remember you are the expert on what’s right for you and your family, these are only ideas. Be a role model for a happy, healthy and meaningful life Teenagers don’t appear to listen to what we say, but they certainly copy what we do. Pay attention to your own diet, exercise, sleeping habits, alcohol consumption, over-work and other life style choices. That includes letting them observe you having fun and making time for things you enjoy, as well as working and being a parent. It’s not selfish to have outside interests and let your children see that life is for living. Don’t pretend to be a clean-living paragon when you are not. It’s much better for them to see you balance a few days of healthier living to make up for a period of excess, whether through work or play. That’s real life. Turn off the digital devices Teenagers are notoriously critical of their parents so don’t make it easy for them to call you out on double-standards. You can’t expect them to make conversation with you if you are checking your own emails at the dinner table. Try to make some family rules about screen time and stick to them Talk, don’t bottle up your emotions It’s normal to feel frustrated, overwhelmed, and tired from time to time. It’s also normal to feel frustrated or angry with your teenager sometimes too. Reach out to people who will support you. At work, advice and feedback is usually helpful. In our personal lives, you don’t necessarily need advice, just someone to listen to you non-judgementally. It’s ok for your teenagers to see that you can feel vulnerable or overwhelmed from time to time. They will learn how to deal with stressful situations from observing how you cope. Avoid comparisons Other people’s children may appear to be coping much better than yours, and other parents appear to be managing their life and career better also. That may be true, or it may not be. Surround yourself with a supportive network and don’t judge your own family life or other people. Life is a marathon not a sprint. If your children are facing difficulties now, then they will learn from their mistakes and build resilience. Don’t beat yourself or them up for not being perfect. You may even have to relax your high standards – maybe one relaxed, home-cooked meal with all the family round the table each week is enough to aim for? Create an easy space to talk As teens become increasingly independent they often spend more time with their friends than their family. This can feel like a rejection. Try and keep the lines of communication open. It is essential to invest your energy in maintaining a good relationship, even when they have trouble communicating. Talk to them about what you are up to, and perhaps they’ll reciprocate. Find the best time to get them to open up. Many parents say that their teens talk to them when they are taxi-ing them around. If your children are more relaxed in the early evening, then grab a cup of tea and chat to them when you get home, rather than rushing to do chores or doing work. Ditch the guilt Some days you simply have to put your professional life first to cope with the demands facing you. That’s modern life and that’s how you pay the bills. Don’t beat yourself up about it. They’ll respect you for your achievements, even if they don’t show it right now. No one says it is easy to balance work and family life. Smaller children are tiring but they are easier to control than stroppy teenagers. It’s hard for many of us to let go, particularly when we are usually in the driving seat in our personal and professional lives. Pick your battles carefully. Like all childhood phases, this won’t last for ever. Thrive is the Institute's dedicated wellbeing hub that offers emotional support and advice. Looking for more parenting advice, check out our “Back to School”- Managing the Year Ahead webinar. Written by: Zena Everett, Executive Coach. Article reproduced with the kind permission of CABA, the organisation providing lifelong support to ICAEW members, ACA students and their close family around the world.

Maintaining and achieving good health is imperative for our physical and mental wellbeing. However, there are barriers that can get in the way of keeping our body and mind healthy, especially for men. Therefore, it is important to recognise what prevents or deters men from seeking help and support when it comes to their health. Here, the Thrive Wellbeing Hub explores these barriers and shares simple but effective steps to keeping healthy both physically and mentally. Knowledge & Awareness Although men are not a homogenous group, there are similarities when it comes to awareness and knowledge of health issues compared to females. Men are prone to engage in more unhealthy habits compared to females. Females on average have a higher life expectancy, males tend to have higher rates of obesity, a greater proportion of males smoke, and there is higher participation in binge drinking and drug use. Poor lifestyles are responsible for a large proportion of chronic diseases. The four main causes of death among males in Ireland are cancer, circulatory system diseases, respiratory system diseases, and external causes of injury and poisoning. It is suggested that men tend to be less informed about the risk factors, causation and symptoms of poor health and certain diseases. This lack of knowledge and awareness may prevent men from seeking help as they are simply unaware of the symptoms surrounding certain illnesses. Therefore, it is important for us to educate ourselves on the signs and symptoms of poor health. Perception As outlined above, men tend to adopt unhealthier behaviours and are at greater risk for all leading causes of death. However, men are less likely to consult or visit a health professional compared to women and perception is a significant barrier to males engaging in health-seeking behaviours. This is where the severity of a health concern is underestimated or brushed off as nothing serious. Late presentation to health services is a cause for concern and can lead to health issues worsening or becoming untreatable. It's important to take action as soon as you notice something isn't quite right. Stigma Gender roles and the construct of masculinity have been cited as barriers to men looking after their health, especially when it comes to mental health. Perceptions associated with masculinity can result in men being more reluctant to speak out on mental health issues or engage in help-seeking behaviour for fear of being seen as weak or not embodying the traditional and frankly outdated attributes of what is considered masculine. This stigma allows for men’s mental health needs to often fly under the radar. This is evident in the high suicide rates of males in Ireland. In 2023, there were 232 male deaths by suicide, accounting for three out of every four suicide deaths in Ireland (CSO).  Thankfully, this ideology is shifting, and men’s attitudes and awareness of mental health are changing. Being honest and open with yourself about how you are feeling and communicating this to loved ones or a mental health professional is so important. Proactive Steps Men and those who support them have an active role to play in encouraging and supporting men to take small steps to be proactive in both their physical and mental health. Let’s challenge ourselves to take action and incorporate small changes to help improve our overall health: Eat well Exercise and spend time outdoors Reduce alcohol intake Know the signs of poor mental health, suicidal ideations, and other health conditions Schedule a medical, arrange a blood test and engage in screening services and programmes Talk and Listen – Confide in a loved one or someone impartial, ask if everything is okay, listen and help empower the men in our lives to take action If you are struggling with your mental or emotional wellbeing, Thrive can help you on your journey to better health. For wellbeing advice, contact the team by email at: thrive@charteredaccountants.ie or by phone: (+353) 86 0243294.

Lots of us are good at showing compassion and kindness to other people. What many of us aren't great at is showing ourselves the same understanding. Our inner critic and negative self-talk can be hard to ignore. But dwelling on mistakes and focusing on faults makes it hard to maintain personal resilience and good mental wellbeing. We could all use a little more self-compassion. The concept of self-compassion has three important elements: Mindfulness - being aware of your thoughts and feelings without judging them or dwelling on them Common humanity - a recognition that no one is perfect and that we all make mistakes Self-kindness - caring for yourself the way you would a friend or loved one in a similar situation Why is self-compassion good for your mental wellbeing? Research shows that people who exercise higher levels of self-compassion tend to be more resilient than those who don't. They have less of a physical response to stressful situations and spend less time dwelling on them after the fact. This is partly because self-compassion involves actively recognising your strengths and achievements, which boosts self-confidence and our belief in our ability to cope with difficult situations. But self-compassion also has an impact on our biology. Stress is your body's natural response to a perceived threat, sometimes called the 'fight or flight' response. A study by the Universities of Exeter and Oxford has found that exercising self-compassion helps to calm the heart rate and shut down this threat response. Participants in the study demonstrated a state of relaxation and security. They also reported feeling a stronger connection with other people. If you exercise self-compassion, you're also more likely to adopt healthy self-care behaviours such as getting plenty of exercise, eating well and establishing healthy sleep patterns. Put simply, you're more likely to make choices that boost your physical health, which is crucial for your mental wellbeing.  Self-compassion also encourages personal and professional development, which in turn improves our confidence and self-esteem. That's because it allows us to consider our strengths and skill set objectively without fear of criticism and judgement. We're then able to identify areas for improvement and make a change for the better. 5 ways to show yourself more compassion At its heart, self-compassion is about self-care or looking after yourself the way you would a friend. In fact, thinking about what you might say to a loved one in a similar situation is a good starting point. What advice would you give them? Here are a few ways you can start showing yourself a little more kindness and understanding: Practice mindfulness - learn how to notice and observe your thoughts without judging them. Mindfulness encourages you to be curious and self-aware, understanding that your thoughts and assumptions are just that. They're not facts. Reward yourself - celebrate your successes and achievements. Keep a list of your personal skills and strengths to review in moments of self-doubt Take a break - time away from your day-to-day routine and a change of scenery can help you keep things in perspective Strengthen your connections - kindness is contagious! By showing love and understanding to the people who are important to you, you're more likely to show yourself the same compassion Do things you enjoy - spending time on our passions, hobbies and interests is good for the soul. Article reproduced with the kind permission of CABA, the organisation providing lifelong support to ICAEW members, ACA students and their close family around the world.

Social anxiety - sometimes known as social phobia - is a type of anxiety that causes intense, overwhelming and persistent fear or anxiety surrounding social settings and situations. Social anxiety is more than shyness, it can be extremely distressing and have a huge impact on our quality of life.  It can affect our every day and impact our relationships, performance at work or school, and most of all our self-confidence. Many people worry about social situations from time to time but a person with social anxiety will worry about and catastrophise social situations before, during and after them. Some may have limited or selective social anxiety – they can accomplish activities or particular tasks and go about their day but will experience a certain amount of fear or anxiety when they do, causing a huge emotional toll at times. Some may avoid places or situations that could cause distress due to concerns of being scrutinized, judged or being embarrassed by their actions. For others with severe social anxiety, it can be so intense that they will avoid all social situations and interactions like asking a question in a meeting, taking public transport or using other shared public facilities or eating in public.  Symptoms of Social Anxiety You may have social anxiety if you engage or experience the following: Intense worry or dread about a social situation or activities such as meeting strangers, starting or holding conversations, engaging in group conversations, speaking on the phone, working or shopping Avoid social situations or places where there are other people or try to blend into the background Feel self-conscious or fear doing something embarrassing Missing work or school due to anxiety Concerned others will notice their nervousness or anxiousness Consuming alcohol or other substances to help face social settings For a person with social anxiety, social situations may lead to or cause a whole host of reactions: Blushing, sweating, trembling, dry mouth or difficulty speaking Have a rapid heart rate, dizziness or feeling lightheaded Feel as if their mind goes blank or feel nauseous Difficulty making or maintaining eye control, rigid body posture Overcoming Social Anxiety Social anxiety is difficult to deal with and you should consider talking to your GP or a mental health professional for solutions and tactics to overcoming your anxiety.  Self-help is not a cure but it can help reduce your anxiety and symptoms. It might be a useful first step before trying other treatments.   Understand your anxiety If you suspect you or a loved one are dealing with social anxiety, seek out information to gain a better understanding of it. Research the signs and behaviour, learn about treatment options and seek out research. Compare which social situations you find the most difficult and make you the most anxious. Are there specific situation you struggle with more? Think about how you act in these situations – these reflections and awareness will give you a clearer picture of the specific areas and triggers you may have or why particular social environments induce anxiety. Exposure A core element of cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) when dealing with anxiety is exposure therapy. This involves seeking out and engaging in activities where you feel anxious or activities that you avoid to ease discomfort. This can be tough and very daunting at first so best to start with small goals and targets and gradually expose yourself to more difficult activities and ones you fear most. As you begin to understand your triggers and situations that cause anxiety, you can create a list of situations that make you feel anxious and categorise them from a little anxiety inducing to terrifying. Begin to make your way down the list as your confidence builds. Examples of this could be saying hello to a stranger, asking a question or making a comment in a meeting to presenting in a room full of people. In the moment If you find yourself in a social setting or situation that is making you feel anxious, there are some simple coping techniques you could use to combat in-the-moment anxiety. Use your breath and engage in some simple breathing exercises as this helps calm the parasympathetic nervous system and instantly makes you feel more relaxed. It also helps you concentrate on the present moment and takes you away from the anxious or fearful thoughts you may be having. A simple one to remember is the 5-5-5 breath.  Inhale for 5 seconds, hold for 5 and breathe out for 5. Another coping technique for anxiety is the 5-4-3-2-1 grounding method which activates your senses and brings you back to the present moment. Acknowledge 5 things you see Acknowledge 4 things you can touch Acknowledge 3 things you can hear Acknowledge 2 things you can smell Acknowledge 1 thing you can taste If you feel as if your anxiety is getting the best of you and interfering with your quality of life, the Thrive Wellbeing Hub is here for you. We have a range of supports available to you as a member or student of the Institute. Learn more about how Thrive can help: https://www.charteredaccountants.ie/thrive-wellbeing-hub/how-we-help