Ahead of our Movember webinar, Movember Lessons: Surviving the Corporate World & Beyond, speaker Ewan Dunbar shares his experience of dealing with cancer and how his journey changed the trajectory of his life, career and mindset. 5,000 Steps!! That was my goal … if I could achieve that then I was sure that my system would kick back in, my wounds would start to heal properly, I would be able to cope without morphine and I would recover fully mentally.  24 hours earlier I had undergone significant surgery to remove stage three cancer and fit a temporary stoma bag for a year.  I had cried for the first time in over a decade when I looked down at my stoma wound, exhausted from the pain and a sleep deprived night in the “Zombie ward” (as I ‘affectionately’ named it). The Zombie Ward was intensive care where patients were typically on morphine and definitely not in control of their senses during the night (I only have admiration for the nursing staff).  I decided to take control of the situation… I declined any more ‘purple tablets’ (the morphine), forced myself out of bed and started putting one foot in front of the other to get walking.  I achieved the 5,000 steps within a couple of days much to the amusement (and possible annoyance) of the nursing staff as I marched up and down blocking the hospital corridor.  I achieved 10,000 steps after day five (not to be recommended) and was released from hospital in half the time I was originally told I had to stay for.  I had set a goal. I had a purpose. I had prepared through significant physical training in advance of my operation and apart from the ‘wobbly 24 hours’ mentioned above, I was determined to live up to the expectations that my friends, family and colleagues expected of me.  Throughout the year of my cancer treatment, the importance of having a really strong network was emphasised to me.  Everyone viewed me as being really positive but I was only positive because of them (they were the fuel to my fire in trying to cope with the challenges presented to me). How did I get there though? As everyone is all too aware, there are carcinogens throughout the world in which we live.  There is not any way to know definitively the cause of my disease however for me it was not coincidental that I was experiencing the most stressful period of my working career.  Whilst smiling on the outside and still being that positive person that everyone expected at work, I was going through so many challenges that I was not sleeping properly.  Despite a rigorous exercise regime, I was constantly exhausted from a lack of sleep and worrying about work issues.  It also does not surprise me that all the cancer sufferers that I befriended who are in their forties also developed cancer whilst going through a particularly stressful period in their lives. This is anecdotal and unfortunately people can just be extremely unfortunate, but this journey has led me to a large number of realisations which also prompted a career change.  I now coach and provide leadership talks to support business executives in navigating the challenges of business life. One of my regular questions to senior executives is “if you woke at 2am, what would you be thinking of” … unfortunately this transpires to be the reality for almost all of my clients, who are able to tell me exactly what they were thinking about.   In this ‘always on’ world, leaders need to check themselves (both physically and mentally) before they wreck themselves.  So please, if in doubt, get it checked out! (early detection is key to saving lives, possibly even yours!)  If you are struggling with business challenges then please reach out to someone for support. Ewan Dunbar is an Executive Coach, Facilitator and Founder of xPotential. Ewan will be speaking at the Thrive Wellbeing Hub and the Young Professionals committee Movember webinar, Movember Lessons: Surviving the Corporate World & Beyond. The one-hour session taking place on Wednesday 16 November will focus on men’s health and their journey through the corporate environment. We will be joined by Ewan Dunbar and Michael Burton who will share their own personal experience of the challenges faced, the journey back and the life lessons learned along the way.  Register for free here: Movember Lessons: Surviving the Corporate World & Beyond!

Active listening can be a powerful tool for effective communication and connecting with colleagues. Ed Garvey-Long offers tips on how to get it right It might surprise you to hear that there are different types of listening. However, I'm sure we all know the feeling of talking with someone and noticing that the other person's attention is elsewhere, distracted by something else. This can make us feel like the person we are talking to is undervaluing what we are saying, even though they may well be able to recall accurately what was said during the conversation. This is known as 'passive listening.' Its opposite—active listening—is a much more useful tool, particularly in the workplace and when connecting with colleagues. The term 'active listening' was coined in the 1950s by American psychologists Carl Rogers and Richard Farson. The central idea of active listening is to be an equal participant in conversations. This allows the listener to take note of body language as well as words and will result in a more nuanced discussion. Employing active listening will not only help your colleagues feel they have genuinely been heard but can also help build a foundation of trust within teams. Furthermore, this is a skill that anyone can learn. Below are some tips to help you become an active listener: Slow down When another person else is talking, we might rush to the end of the conversation, guessing what they are trying to say and getting our brains to start rehearsing what is best to say in response. In doing so, however, our attention shifts, and we risk missing important details. Don't rush ahead! Instead, slow down and really consider what is being said to you. Once the other person has finished speaking, taking a second before speaking is OK; maybe even ask a follow-up question about what they have just said to demonstrate that you have been listening and understood what has been said. Notice what's not being said We give off more signals about our thoughts and feelings than just by using our words. Our body language can often give subtle clues about the speaker's situation. For example, a stressed colleague might have very tense body language, sitting hunched on their chair. Stress can also sometimes be heard in someone's voice, making them sound strained or even quieter than usual. If you notice these behavioural changes in someone you are conversing with, don't interrupt them and draw attention to it. By doing so, you run the risk of making them feel uncomfortable. Instead, wait for an appropriate time to ask a question like 'are you doing all right?' This can reassure someone that they are being noticed and might encourage them to open up more about their situation. Empathy is king Everyone has difficulties in their lives from time to time, whether it be work stress, family issues or money worries, etc. When listening to someone, consider their perspective as much as possible. They might have been nervous about having this conversation with you or are finding the topic hard to talk about. Recall how you've felt in the past in similar situations and behave as you wish others had behaved towards you then. Consider the context Active listening is a great skill to practice and can really help colleagues feel heard and help you develop your own communication skills. However, it is essential to acknowledge that it can be quite tiring to be constantly in active listening mode. Instead, consider saving your active listening skills for important meetings, such as probation reviews or when colleagues ask to speak to you in private. Active listening can be a powerful tool, but it's wasted if it's used on idle chitchat in the office kitchen! Ed Garvey-Long is a poet and founder of Ed Garvey-Long Coaching

There are lots of simple ways to add exercise into your day, and they can come from the most unexpected of places. Housework and gardening can help you squeeze in more moderate exercise, for example. Find out how else you could add more activity into your day. Not doing enough exercise can shorten your lifespan by three to five years, according to research. Regular exercise can help manage weight, keep your muscles flexible, and even maintain collagen production as you get older, leading to healthier skin.  It also relieves stress, boosts energy levels, improves your confidence, can help you sleep better, and helps you maintain your independence as you grow older.  Statistics show just how much of a difference regular exercise could make to your health:   up to 35 percent lower risk of coronary heart disease and stroke  up to 50 percent lower risk of type 2 diabetes  up to 50 percent lower risk of colon cancer  up to 20 percent lower risk of breast cancer  up to 83 percent lower risk of osteoarthritis  up to 30 percent lower risk of depression  up to 30 percent lower risk of dementia  How much exercise do you need?  According to public health guidelines, you should aim to be active every day and do at least 150 minutes of moderate activity every week.  Moderate exercise is something that leaves you slightly out of breath and raises your heart rate. This could be 30 minutes five days a week, or you could break that down into three 10-minute sessions.  You should aim to do at least a couple of strength training sessions a week as well, such as weightlifting, heavy gardening, or exercises that use your body's weight as resistance (like yoga).  The good news is that being physically active doesn't have to mean joining an expensive gym or committing to running a marathon.   Nor do you have to go from zero to 150 minutes - it’s far better to start slowly and build up gradually as your fitness levels improve.  speed up daily chores  Small things - like taking the stairs instead of the lift, walking to work or the next bus stop, gardening, playing with your children, and doing DIY and shopping (especially if you leave your car at home) all help to boost your activity levels.  Housework, for instance, is a great way to get moving - dusting, polishing, ironing, scrubbing, and vacuuming is great for boosting your heart rate.   You could also wash your car by hand or clean your own windows, either of which will get you moving more.  walk for health  A regular brisk walk can improve your heart and circulation, help your lungs, lower your blood pressure, and reduce your risk of coronary heart disease and stroke.  Even if you can't manage a brisk walk, a gentle walk is still good for your bones, joints, and immune system. And it can boost your mood.   And, because walking is a low-impact exercise, it's much safer in terms of injury and accident risk, especially if you haven't exercised much lately.  go for a swim  Swimming has similar health benefits to walking, so it’s no wonder it’s a popular form of exercise.  There’s no age barrier, and you can take things at your own pace. This may explain why swimming is so popular among middle-aged and older people.  Studies have also shown that swimming every day could protect against dementia.  If joint problems prevent you from walking, swimming is ideal because the water supports your weight and takes the pressure off your knees, hips, and spine.   Can’t swim? Most swimming pools offer adult swimming lessons as well as aqua aerobics classes.  do a dance  Dance doesn’t just keep you fit and healthy - it also gives you a more positive outlook on life! And it’s great fun.  Learning a new dance can help to keep your memory sharp. One report even claimed that dancing is associated with a lower risk of mental decline.  With ballroom, Latin, jive, disco, line dancing, ballet, and even belly dancing, there's a type of dance for everyone.   ride a bike  If you already have a bike, cycling is an easy way to exercise more.   It could save you money on petrol, too, since statistics show most car journeys are under a mile long (a distance that can easily be cycled in most cases).  Cycling is ideal for working your lower body and your cardiovascular system. It may also help reduce your risk of heart disease and high blood pressure.   According to research, cycling for 20 miles or more a week reduces your risk of heart disease by half compared with a non-cyclist.  Cycling protects against obesity, too, since a moderate ride burns eight calories a minute.   According to experts, people who cycle regularly are as fit as those who are 10 years younger. It can be fun, too, especially if you get the whole family involved.  Article reproduced with the kind permission of CABA, the organisation providing lifelong support to ICAEW members, ACA students and their close family around the world.

Dawn Leane examines the main barriers to success experienced by women and what organisations can do to break the career inhibitors down In workshops organised after the publication of the research study carried out by Fiona Dent and Viki Holton for their book Women in Business: Navigating Career Success, women were asked to identify factors they believed had hindered their progress. Their responses are broadly categorised as follows: Limiting beliefs; Family issues; Work colleagues; Personal style and skills; Lack of organisational support; Gender issues; Taking the wrong career path; and Politics and bureaucracy. The most frequently mentioned issues focus on self-doubt and limiting beliefs. As this is a nuanced subject, it is important to distinguish between limiting beliefs and confidence.  Limiting beliefs vs confidence Beliefs are assumed truths developed over time from our direct experiences and observations. They usually don’t exist as explicit propositions. We may barely be aware of them, but they influence what we think, say, and do.  When they manifest self-doubt, they become limiting beliefs. An example of a limiting belief may be ‘I can’t handle conflict’, which could lead to a lack of assertiveness or the tendency to give in to others. Limiting beliefs can have a significantly negative impact on our ability to achieve our full potential. Confidence, however, can be significantly influenced by workplace culture. Women are regularly told that they should be more confident, which is particularly unhelpful as it puts the responsibility firmly back on women, as opposed to examining the environment as a contributing factor. One way in which the office environment can impact confidence is ‘backlash avoidance mechanism’, whereby women feel uncomfortable self-promoting due to perceived social consequences. Feedback and career development In the workshop, 59 percent of participants believed that men and women are judged unequally, particularly when it comes to feedback and development in the workplace. This is supported by the Women in the Workplace study—a study of US women in the workplace conducted by LeanIn.Org and McKinsey & Company—which found that women report receiving feedback much less frequently than their male co-workers. In fact, women are more than 20 percent less likely than men to receive difficult feedback, which is essential to improving performance. One reason cited by managers is their fear of an emotional response, which is less of a concern when giving feedback to male employees. Further, the feedback that women receive is often vague and non-specific. In their Harvard Business Review article, ‘Research: Vague Feedback is Holding Women Back’, Shelly J. Correll and Caroline Simard advised that “women are systematically less likely to receive specific feedback tied to outcomes, both when they receive praise and when the feedback is developmental.” They also found that when women did receive feedback, it was largely focused on their style of communication. Family issues While it is widely accepted that family issues can be a barrier to success, most participants in Dent and Holton’s research recognised that decisions made in relation to family life require compromise—and that it was typically the woman in the relationship who compromised out of personal choice. Many women accepted this as an inevitable consequence of motherhood and feel obliged to take responsibility and be available for their children. Managing employee long-term success The overarching message from these pieces of research is that what happens early in a woman's career significantly impacts her long-term success. It is important that both the career accelerators and inhibitors discussed in this series are considered by organisations when developing talent management and career development programmes. You can read the first two articles in this series: Empowering women for better balance in the workplace Four success factors for women in the workplace Dawn Leane is Founder of Leane Leaders and Leane Empower. 

Retirement doesn’t mean you have to scale back on how active you are. If anything, you can be busier than ever, thanks to the wealth of opportunities that are out there. Part-time jobs and volunteering are great for helping you stay busy if you’re retired. Not all retirees want to just put their feet up and relax. They don’t necessarily just want to spend their retirement pursuing their hobbies or pastimes either. There are many more activities out there to help keep them busy and give them more of a purpose. What’s more, not everybody who retires can afford to live off their savings and pensions. Part-time jobs are ideal for providing the additional income that’s needed to supplement savings and pensions. Believe it or not, there are numerous opportunities - paid and voluntary - available to retired people these days. In fact, some retirees even go on to start a brand new career! Retirement doesn’t have to be restrictive. Focus on how you want to spend it and what you need to do in order to achieve your goals within the next chapter of your life. Types of part-time work Self-employment If you’re considering working for yourself, but aren’t sure what to do, then start by considering your hobbies. Whether it’s needlework, knitting, furniture restoration, gardening, or DIY, lots of people set up small businesses and start new part-time or self-employed careers when they retire. Given the digital era in which we now live, the internet has opened up so many doors. This means that if you used to be a secretary, you could provide remote typing or bookkeeping services to companies who don’t have the resources to employ a full-time member of staff to carry out this work. Alternatively, you may enjoy car boot sales and have an eye for a bargain that you can easily resell online, making yourself some extra money in the process. The options, and opportunities, are endless! If you quite like the idea of working for yourself, make a list of all of your skills, personal qualities and interests. This will enable you to see if there’s a gap in the market you can tap into. The additional income you make will also help with your financial budgeting and retirement planning. Staff employment By law, older workers, who may have retired or be close to retirement, should not be categorised into doing certain types of work. Anti-discrimination legislation means that retired people, or those nearing retirement, can continue in the jobs they have done for most of their working life way beyond conventional retirement age. Because it’s unlawful to discriminate on the grounds of age, you should have the same chance of gaining employment as everybody else. What about ex-work colleagues? Networking provides you with possibly the best chance of finding work if you want to continue working part-time within your chosen field. Most people are familiar with the likes of B&Q and Tesco, who have long maintained a policy of actively encouraging retired people to work. However, all companies now need to also take a proactive approach to considering older applicants when it comes to their recruitment processes. Voluntary work Sometimes, people who have retired, simply want to give something back and help others, so get involved with voluntary work. They can do this by themselves or with their partner if they’re retired too. There are many benefits to volunteering for all involved. For retirees, it’s a chance to make new friends and learn new skills. It can also be incredibly rewarding, as well as provide you with some purpose and structure to your day. Taking part in voluntary work is both mentally and physically rewarding. It has been recognised for helping combat depression, boosting self-confidence, staying fit and healthy and cultivating happiness, among numerous other things. Many charities and volunteer groups actively encourage retirees to get involved due to their maturity; wealth of experience and enthusiasm for the cause: charity shops are always on the look-out for staff, or perhaps a voluntary organisation can make use of any administration skills you may have if you enjoy physical labour and working outdoors, there are countless voluntary projects related to conservation out there you may want to take on an active role within your local community, so you could become a local councillor if you’re a good communicator and ‘people person’, helping out with disadvantaged young people or providing telephone support via the Samaritans might be just the thing for you if you drive, you may be able to find work collecting the clothes bags that are left out for charities or by taking people to and from hospital Your local council, local newspaper and library are good places to start enquiring about voluntary work. There are also plenty of online resources too. Simply type into a search engine (e.g. Google) 'voluntary work' in your local region. Volunteering is an opportunity for you to be involved in something you really enjoy doing. Whether it’s a hobby or continuing your previous role or existing voluntary work. A final few words about staying busy during retirement… Retirement doesn’t have to mean staying in and having minimal interaction with people. There are numerous different avenues you can explore, from starting a self-employed business based on your hobbies and interests and taking part in voluntary work, to still working for an employer on a part-time or job share basis. The more you search for ways to spend your retirement, the more we guarantee you’ll find…. For advice, wellness coaching or counselling, contact the team by email at: thrive@charteredaccountants.ie or by phone: (+353) 86 0243294. Article reproduced with the kind permission of CABA, the organisation providing lifelong support to ICAEW members, ACA students and their close family around the world.

September is Irish Heart Month which serves as an opportunity to spread awareness about our heart, its health, and the prevention of cardiovascular disease. The Irish Heart Foundation’s new campaign ‘Her Heart Matters’ aims to raise awareness of heart disease and stroke in women. Stark figures surrounding the campaign show 1 in 4 women in Ireland die from heart disease and stroke. Overall, approximately 10,000 people in Ireland die from cardiovascular disease every year. Here the Thrive wellbeing team takes a look at ways you can protect your heart health. Heart Disease & Menopause A woman’s risk of heart disease and stroke increases with the onset of menopause. This is due to lower levels of oestrogen which can increase blood pressure and cholesterol, symptoms of menopause such as poor sleep and night sweats can increase your risk as well as changes in body shape, muscle, and fat stores. Men & Heart Disease Men are more likely than women to develop heart disease. There is a variety of reasons that causes an increased number of cases of cardiovascular disease in men. It is suggested that men tend to cope with stress differently compared to women and may be less adaptive to cope with stress physiologically, behaviourally, and emotionally. Men also tend to pay less attention to healthy lifestyle behaviours and could be less aware of associated symptoms. Protect your Heart The good news is that 80% of premature heart disease and stroke are preventable by making simple but vital lifestyle changes and being proactive when it comes to your health, as is the case with many other diseases and illnesses. Manage stress – find ways to relax, maintain a regular sleeping pattern, practise relaxation techniques, stay connected Get Moving Eat well Stop smoking Drink less alcohol Know your family history Check it out - have regular blood pressure and cholesterol checks Know the Signs Awareness of the signs of heart disease is imperative to early detection but what symptoms should you look out for that might indicate a potential heart problem? Chest pain Pain or weakness in legs/arms Breathlessness Fast or slow heartbeat or palpitations Feeling dizzy/lightheaded/or faint Fatigue Swollen limbs The Thrive Wellbeing Hub is here for you on all matters related to your health and wellbeing. For more information or advice, contact the team by email at: thrive@charteredaccountants.ie  or by phone: (+353) 86 0243294. We also host an abundance of insightful and practical wellbeing webinars that may help you in your efforts, you can visit our Help & Guides page to view. For more on Irish Heart Month, please visit irishheart.ie.