Self-compassion is the ability to treat yourself with the same care and kindness as you would a good friend who was going through a difficult and stressful time. 'Unlike self-criticism, which asks if you're good enough, self-compassion asks what's good for you, what do you need?' Kristin Neff Showing compassion to others When we are compassionate to others, we have an intention to be with them through the difficulties they are experiencing and to alleviate their suffering and stress in some way. This can often be very different to the way we treat ourselves through the challenges of life. How often have we provided support for someone we care about and yet end up criticising ourselves endlessly for our various perceived inadequacies or shortcomings. Many of us have been taught to put others first. But neglecting ourselves in order to do this isn't an effective or sustainable long term strategy without considering what we need to keep emotionally well. Maintaining the inner capacity to be there for our family, friends and colleagues is reliant on looking after ourselves well. Self-compassion means you are understanding and kind to yourself when confronted with personal failings and mistakes – after all, whoever said you were supposed to be perfect? Why we need to be compassionate towards ourselves Feeling stressed and being hard on ourselves is very common, especially in a culture which is increasingly performance and target focused. Loneliness and isolation are also increasing in our ever digitally focused world. If you are finding it difficult to manage the many challenges, threats and distractions of our modern world, you are not alone. With current figures of one in four people developing a mental health difficulty in any given year and the rising levels of distress within young people, many people are struggling to align life with their deeper values and needs. A self-critical and unkind stance towards yourself when you are going through testing times will only serve to activate the fight or flight stress response, clouding the minds ability to remain calm. Some people may feel reluctant to develop self-compassion as they might feel the notion is self-indulgent or self-pitying. But developing the ability and strength to face and manage our difficulties, without isolating ourselves from others and becoming absorbed in our own pain is the essence of courageous living. Being able to attend to your own difficulties and challenges wisely will enable you to have the spare emotional capacity to engage with others and life in a more helpful way. According to Kristin Neff there are three key elements to compassion: Self-kindness An ability to relate to ourselves with warmth and kindness. Common humanity The appreciation that we all suffer at times and you are not alone in these feelings. Mindful awareness The ability to view our difficulties in a balanced perspective so that we can keep engaging in life. How to develop emotional resilience There has been much interest in the effects of developing compassion within ourselves from a scientific perspective. Research has shown that people who score high on self-compassion: Cope better with adversities Take more personal initiative and responsibility Are less fearful of making mistakes and being rejected Are more emotionally intelligent, happier and more optimistic Take better care of themselves physically and emotionally The good news is that our compassionate self can be developed and enhanced through training and practice so that we become more attuned to supporting ourselves through the difficulties of life rather than sabotaging ourselves and making situations more unmanageable than they need to be. How to be kinder and more compassionate to yourself Be aware of your internal voice Becoming aware of how we talk to ourselves, the tone of voice we use and language we use gives us the opportunity to move from harshness to supportive tendencies. Noticing the good Being able to notice and celebrate moments of the day and our good qualities is an essential part of managing and balancing difficult times. Each day ask yourself: When have I been at my best today for someone else? What has been my best moment of today? Give yourself encouragement It is more effective to become your own internal ally and support system rather than your own harshest critic. Written by: Kirsty Lilley Kirsty has delivered mindfulness and self-compassion courses to a wide variety of workplaces during her career and is also a trained psychotherapist and coach. She has worked at a strategic level within organisations developing wellbeing policies and been responsible for developing training courses on improving mental health and wellbeing. Kirsty is committed to an integrated and compassionate approach when helping others to fulfil their potential. Article reproduced with the kind permission of CABA, the organisation providing lifelong support to ICAEW members, ACA students and their close family around the world.

As exams begin to take focus for students, Dee France, Manager for the Thrive Wellbeing Hub, details how to balance your work, study and life commitments while prioritising your wellbeing and mental health  The life of a Chartered Accountant student can be tough!  Long work days, commuting, long evenings and weekends attending lectures, studying, practice papers, mocks – all while contending with the busy season.  This is without even mentioning all the other demands that impact our daily lives – family, kids, pets, sports and hobbies, downtime, and social obligations.  Juggling all of this can feel like you are being pulled in many different directions and life can feel hectic and chaotic. This demands a lot of physical and mental energy and space. Being up against the clock 24/7 with very competing tasks requires focus, determination and resilience.  So, how do you balance it all without becoming too overwhelmed or—even worse—burnt out?  Let me check my schedule  To balance your life, you need to be aware of everything you have on your plate, get organised and be a bit ruthless with your schedule.  At the start of each week, plan out the week ahead. Don’t overburden or over-pressure yourself, but get into the nitty gritty of your days and weeks, whether it's work-time, study-time, family commitments, social or other extracurricular activities – schedule it!  In the run-up to exams, employers may have a study leave policy in place. This can help you solely focus your efforts on preparing for your exams.  If this isn’t available to you, consider taking some annual leave so work commitments are softened and you have some extra time free.   We would even recommend scheduling daily downtime – switching off for at least 30 minutes at the end of each day will let you wind down before going to bed.  Pocketful of time  During exam season, time can either be your best friend or your worst enemy.  Now that your schedule is set, can you find extra time in your day to study? Look to capitalise on little pockets of extra time during the day or wasted downtime for quick burst study sessions.  Get creative with your time. Commuting? Why not use your journey to revise? Working from home? Use the time you would spend commuting to study. Finished your lunch? Crack out the study notes. Cooking dinner? Listen to a lecture as you prep.  Social caterpillar  At Thrive, we often hear how students cancel plans or feel guilty for socialising during studies. While you may have to cut back on your social plans, it is important to create space for enjoyment and rest.  It is paramount to have time away from your studies and have some fun. It allows you to recharge and relax, pulls you from your relentless routine and schedule and allows for a bit of calm and lightness in all the chaos.  Health hacks  While it may seem obvious, we at Thrive can’t stress enough just how important it is to look after your mental and physical health throughout your studies.   Pouring so much physical and mental energy into your efforts can make you feel fatigued, overwhelmed and stressed, leaving you vulnerable to physical and mental health concerns.  Sleeping eight hours a night, exercising daily, and eating well are extremely important for protecting yourself from burnout, reducing your stress levels, and increasing your energy.  Give yourself time to step away from your work and studies. Relaxing helps clear your head and keeps you motivated and productive.  So, whether that’s a chapter of your book, an episode of your favourite show, some yoga, or a podcast, always give yourself permission to relax guilt-free.  Lean on your support system If you are struggling and find it hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel, seek help from your support system.  Many of your managers, mentors, and lecturers have more than likely been through the same experience and can empathise with what you are going through. They may also be able to give you some valuable advice.  Your peers and colleagues will be sitting their exams at the same time, so setting up a weekly study group may prove beneficial in managing work and study.  Have your support system hold you accountable, too. If those close to you see that you are doing too much, have them make sure you are finishing work/study at a reasonable time. If you are falling behind, they can crack the whip.  Maybe your loved ones could take on a large proportion of the shared roles for the time being, whether that’s getting the children to bed, cooking dinner or housework.  Also, keep in mind the many student supports available to you through the education department or here at Thrive. The Thrive Wellbeing Hub provides a comprehensive mental health and wellness programme with a wide range of services tailored to our students’ needs. For more advice or information, check out Thrive’s Wellbeing Hub. Alternatively, you can contact the team by email at thrive@charteredaccountants.ie or phone at (+353) 86 0243294.  

On the last Friday in April, Ireland sees National Workplace Wellbeing Day take place. The purpose of National Workplace Wellbeing Day is to raise awareness of the importance of wellbeing in the workplace at a national level, to educate all stakeholders and help employers evolve and excel in their wellbeing strategies. But what is workplace wellbeing?  Generally speaking, it means promoting wellbeing at work and empowering staff with the knowledge and tools to be proactive in boosting and protecting their own wellbeing. Corporate wellbeing programmes are becoming more and more popular. Once seen as an added perk for employees, they are now becoming an integral part of the business agenda. However, research from University College Cork (UCC) and Munster Technological University (MTU) found that while 76% of the employers said they see employee mental health and wellbeing as their responsibility, a whopping 80% are not investing in workplace mental health. No matter where employees are situated, how small or large a firm it is, it’s important to foster a culture of good wellbeing to positively influence both employees and the company. Fostering a culture that places importance on employees' mental health and wellbeing can help prevent work induced stress and create a positive and healthy work environment where employees and the company can thrive. On average, we spend a third of our adult life at work. That is a significant amount of time and how we feel about work has a big impact on our day, life, home, and on our general happiness. Another study carried out by HR Buddy found that 9 in 10 workers feel their work negatively impacts their mental health and wellbeing.  Mental health related illnesses are one of the most common reasons for long-term absence, and it is estimated 1 in 5 employees have missed work due to stress, anxiety or depression.  Employee stress and ill mental health can directly impact levels of absenteeism, presenteeism and reduced performance - all at a high cost for employers and adversely affects business performance. As a result, implementing wellbeing initiatives and strategies should be seen as a key business driver. Businesses have a duty of care to employees both physically and psychologically and employers hold a responsibility for the wellbeing of their staff. There is a wealth of evidence that points to a positive correlation between workplace wellbeing and improved business KPI’s. Fostering a culture of good wellbeing not only produces a happier workforce but the benefits to the company are just as happy: Improvement in staff productivity and engagement Can help with staff retention Increase in employee morale Reduction in absenteeism Stronger employer brand and reputation A resilient workforce Increased profits A global wellbeing survey by Aon points to these positive outcomes. The survey showed that companies that improve employee wellbeing by 4% see a 1% increase in company profits and a 1% decrease in employee turnover. In recent times, our collective interest in health and wellbeing has expanded and the role and value of workplace wellbeing is recognised more than ever. The new era in our working lives has proven how fundamental employee wellbeing is to company resilience and creating a healthy workplace is something employers are becoming much more aware of. National Workplace Wellbeing Day is a great starting point and opportunity for organisations looking to promote the wellbeing of employees.   Evidence suggests there is a holistic and cyclical effect of promoting wellbeing in the workplace both for employers and employees. Therefore, companies should take the steps to support employees and demonstrate their commitment to promoting positive mental health. Like most workplace initiatives in order for it to be successful, leadership buy-in is essential. This obstacle has been cited as one of the biggest barriers to implementing workplace wellbeing strategies. By linking employee wellbeing with success metrics, increased business performance and clearly demonstrating how it will positively impact all aspects of the business is a sure way to ensure clear, consistent and visible support from the top down.   There is a plethora of ways of how a culture of workplace wellbeing can be embedded into an organisation through internal policies and offerings. The most popular strategy is an employee assistance programme, however there is a wealth of additional supports employers can put in place. For example, some organisations run employee wellbeing events such as mindfulness or exercise classes, a no meetings Fridays’ policy, provide mental health training for managers and employees to identify signs of mental stress, offer flexible working arrangements, promote a culture that fosters a healthy work-life balance, and raise awareness of mental health challenges within the workplace. If you would like more advice or assistance on wellbeing whether an employee or an employer, the Thrive Wellbeing Hub provides counselling, wellbeing coaching, information, advice and lots more to all members of the Institute.  You can contact the Thrive wellbeing team by email at: thrive@charteredaccountants.ie or by phone: (+353) 86 0243294.

Embracing a positive perspective is a key ingredient for personal wellbeing. Aaron O’Connell asks you to consider whether you’re a glass half full or glass half empty person, and he provides a useful exercise to help you view life with a different filter and to boost your well-being. Some questions for you to consider Do you have tendency to see things positively where you are focusing on the good things that happen around you, or do you focus on the negatives, those obstacles and problems you face?  If you have a to-do list and you manage to successfully complete 19 out of 20 things, are you happy about the long list of things you’ve accomplished, or are you upset about that one thing that you didn’t get to finish? It’s your choice A hundred good things (little highlights) and one bad thing (a little low-light) might happen during your day. You have the opportunity to appreciate and remember all the good things, or to focus only on the bad things. You can look at life through a different filter. Embracing a positive perspective One useful exercise I recommend to the athletes, students and business people I work with, and indeed practice myself every night at bedtime, is to recall seven positive things that happen during the day. It’s something I picked up from internationally acclaimed sport psychologist, Dr. Terry Orlick. Before you sleep, look back over your day chronologically and highlight those good things that happened. They don’t have to be major events. Little highlights will do. “I had a lovely breakfast.” “The sun was shining today.” “I got a call from a good friend.” “I went for a lovely walk today.” You could begin this exercise by recalling three positives and increase by one each time after a few days. Look for different ones each day. As Dr. Orlick would say, it’s like “using a yellow magic marker to highlight all the good things you do, see, hear, taste, feel, and learn in a day.” Even better, write them down in a journal or on your phone. You’ll get a buzz out of revisiting and re-reading these when you’ve had a tough day. Using a different filter and living with a positive perspective is like becoming your own best friend. It’ll change your outlook in life for the good. Challenge yourself to look for seven highlights a day. Once you start looking for them and finding them, your day and your life immediately become better. You’ll experience a boost in wellbeing along with an increase in gratitude. Aaron O’Connell is the owner of Mind Your Performance. He provides consultancy and training in mental skills, mental well-being, and performance enhancement for the education, business, and sports sector. Thrive is the Institute’s dedicated wellbeing hub which provides emotional and practical support to our members, students, and their family members for life. Should you find yourself in a difficult situation, the team at Thrive can help steer you through life’s ups and downs.  Talk to us today on mobile: (353) 86 024 3294 or email us.  

Insomnia is a sleep disorder in which you have trouble falling and/or staying asleep. It is suggested that 42% of Irish adults have a mental health disorder with insomnia cited as the most common disorder experienced by adults in Ireland at 15%. Here, the Thrive wellbeing team explains insomnia, the symptoms, causes and tips to help you get a better night's sleep. Insomnia means you have problematic sleep habits. How much sleep an individual needs varies from person to person, but on average adults need 7-9 hours of sleep per night. If you are experiencing constant tiredness throughout the day, you are probably not getting enough sleep. Symptoms Insomnia can affect people on a short-term basis (less than 3 months). Insomnia that lasts 3 months or longer is classified as long-term insomnia. Insomnia symptoms may include: Difficult falling asleep A pattern of interrupted or broken sleep that doesn’t refresh you Waking too early Daytime tiredness and sleepiness Find it hard to nap during the day even though you're tired Difficulty paying attention, concentrating, or focusing on tasks Increased forgetfulness Irritability, depression, or anxiety What causes insomnia? Insomnia can be the primary problem but usually is a result of other factors that disrupt sleep. Therefore, treating the underlying causes can help improve insomnia symptoms. Common causes of insomnia include: Stress Irregular sleep schedule or poor sleeping habits Mental health disorders such as anxiety or depression Physical illness or chronic pain Travel or work schedules Lifestyle choices e.g., heavy reliance on stimulants such as alcohol, caffeine, or nicotine Age and life stage- older adults and those going through menopause have a higher susceptibility to chronic insomnia A combination of these factors can trigger or exacerbate insomnia, while poor sleep can initiate or worsen other health conditions, creating a vicious and complex cause and effect situation. Risk factors   During sleep, the body heals and restores itself, our brain forges new pathways and connections that helps with memory retention.  This is the time our bodies needs to carry out important functions to ensure we are running smoothly and effectively. When we continually don’t get enough sleep, it can have serious health effects over time. Science has linked poor sleep and insomnia to a multitude of health problems. A lack of sleep over time can increase the chances of developing a number of conditions such as a weakened immune system, obesity, high blood pressure, stroke, heart disease among other issues such as increased risk of accidents and errors, poor memory and performance and difficulty regulating our emotions. How you can treat insomnia yourself It is not always possible to prevent insomnia, but good sleep habits can help improve it and promote sound sleep. When trying to get your sleep cycle on track, the first place to start with is where you sleep. Make sure your room is dark and quiet, not to cold or warm and make sure your mattress, pillows and covers are comfortable. Create a good bedtime routine that helps you relax and get in the mood for sleep. Relax at least 1 hour before bed and only go to bed when you feel tired, limiting the use of technology and bright lights can help too. Try to maintain roughly the same schedule for sleeping, you should aim to go to bed and wake up at the same time every day, even on the weekends. Exercise regularly and get some sunlight most days. Sun exposure helps regulate the body’s internal body clock and promotes sleep at night, while exercise influences sleep efficiency on both a physical and mental level. Insomnia can seriously affect your mental and emotional health along with physical wellbeing. If your sleep is impacting your day-to-day life and a change in sleeping habits haven’t work, you should consult your GP. Thrive can also help you on your journey to better sleep. For advice, wellness coaching or counselling, contact the team by email at: thrive@charteredaccountants.ie or by phone: (+353) 86 0243294

Happy International Women’s Day!  Yesterday (March 7), Thrive and the Institute’s Member Experience team welcomed over 100 guests to our Step into your Power Sparkling Lunch in celebration of International Women’s Day.   In the wonderful surroundings of the Dean Townhouse, we were joined by members and students of the chartered community who had travelled from all corners of Ireland to attend the event.  In her opening address, Dee France, from the Institute’s Thrive Wellbeing Hub, outlined the importance of shining a spotlight on some of the key challenges women continue to face in the workplace and at home, while celebrating the many advances made in recent times.  Guests enjoyed a keynote speech from Aoife Hughes, founder of FRAZZLE, entitled “How to run your home like a business” where attendees were encouraged to manage their time and boundaries more effectively while outsourcing and delegating the workload to give themselves more time for self-care ultimately leading to “calm in the chaos”.  Aisling McCaffrey, Director at Grant Thornton, facilitated a panel discussion covering some key issues of the day namely how to build confidence in the workplace, the importance of male allyship and how leaders can champion inclusion, and childcare reform and what the Institute is doing in this important area.  The panellists, Charlotte Rose Keating, founder Act on it Coaching, Andrew Keating, CFO at Musgrave and the Institute’s Tax and Public Policy Lead, Cróna Clohisey, shared many important insights into how they navigate their own personal challenges and successes both in their professional and personal lives.   The final segment of the afternoon was a fireside chat with President, Sinead Donovan and CASSI Chair Caelainn McGonigle.  Sinead outlined that, despite the many highs and lows in her 33 year career as a Chartered Accountant, the Institute had been the one constant during that time.  She shared her passion for sport and running and the importance of having a “release valve” when times get tough. Asking for help and leaning on the allies around you, was her parting advice for the #nextgen leaders of the future.   The event was also raising funds for two very important charities, CA Support (the Institute’s in-house charity and benevolent fund), and Women’s Aid, who had recently supported the Institute in the launch of its Domestic Violence Policy.  Brian Murphy, chair of CA Support, outlined the importance of donating vital funds to CA Support as the majority of the cases the charity support are families – mothers and fathers who have encountered adversity and are in dire need of assistance.   The final thoughts of the day were summed up by President Sinead Donovan, who implored anyone in the family of accountants who is struggling to seek out support from those around them.  Dee France, in her closing remarks, reminded all attendees of the Institute’s Thrive Wellbeing Hub and that the confidential service is open to all, whatever stage of their chartered journey.   Thank you to all who attended.  View photos from the event here.